Lessons to Carry With You in 2014

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 Time is precious, and it’s the one thing you won’t ever get back. Don’t let anyone waste your time and don’t wait for the ‘perfect time’ to take a chance on something or you’ll always be waiting.

When I look back at the past year and think of all the ways that things couldn’t have gone my way, I realize it wasn’t because of sheer luck or because I was just having a good year that so many wonderful things DID go my way. It’s because in 2013 I made some promises to myself and I kept them and I couldn’t be more happier and yes I’ll admit I’m even proud of myself.

Lesson 1:

Give yourself credit where credit is due. Too many of us shy away from giving ourselves a pat on the back when we accomplish a goal or learn a lesson. We’re all human and it’s part of growing as a person. Being happy for  yourself  may seem like a corny concept at first but honestly just get over it. If you can be happy for someone else when they accomplish something, you can be happy and proud of yourself too.

Lesson 2:

Be patient with yourself.  Don’t throw in the towel too soon. Frustration is a good thing, it means you are challenging your boundaries and setting new ones. It took me 3 months of failing, tweaking, and restarting my detox to finally stick to something that worked for me and now the changes have virtually become permanent. They don’t say, “Rome wasn’t built in a day” for nothing. You’ll have a few nuts and bolts missing in the beginning when you’re first building your dream, and you’ll get frustrated at why the puzzle pieces aren’t all fitting together like you wanted to. Take a break, take a detour, go on a ‘shopping trip’, get some ideas, and find the nuts and bolts you need and start back up. You’ll have the foundation, then the framework, and in no time you’ll see the finished house.  

Lesson 3:

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Lesson 4

YOU create your own happiness.

So those are just 4 lessons for 2014 that I carry with me from 2013, I could write on and on about some more I learned, and maybe I will in the future but these are just some basics. It’s easier to be passive and let things happen as they will; I know I was guilty of that in years past and always thought things were as they were and that I couldn’t really change the way my year would shape out, but that couldn’t be further from the truth.

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How To Change Your Attitude On Happiness

It’s officially sweater weather (sort of). I live in Florida so it’s tropical most of the time, but I’ll bust out my cardigan and boots any chance I get. Including this festive cup.

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Sweaters on mugs…I don’t know anything that’s cuter

There’s only 1 month left until 2013 is over; 31 more days and we’ll never have this year back again except through photographs and memories. Did you make the most of this year?

I saw a friend’s Facebook status up  the other day: Can’t wait for this year to be over. 2013 you were not good to me.”

I read that and thought, I liked 2013 compared to 2012. But what did I do differently this year to make that change? The only thing I could thing of was my attitude. Reacting, or rather not reacting to things that I would otherwise let get the best of me. Happiness is what you make of it, it doesn’t come find you. When you go into a store, you have a vision. You have an idea of what outfit you want to wear. You wouldn’t say “I think i’ll just wait here, dress you come to me when you’re ready.” You take charge and search the racks. You try on what works, and toss what doesn’t. Sometimes something you see will inspire you to take a different path, but you have to be open to that idea to experience it. You have to create it yourself, and that starts with your attitude. Like many, on January 1st I set some resolutions for myself. After having a rough time with being hospitalized in 2012, I wrote down some goals on index cards and made a conscious decision to follow through. I had made New Year’s resolutions before, but I’ll admit I usually forgot about them after the month of January. So I decided I’d be more accountable this year.

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I actually ended up doing two 5k’s, another cleanse, and I’ve been taking more artistic risks.  There’s something about setting goals for yourself that brings out a sense of accomplishment and fulfillment, and makes you want to do more. But like they say,

There’s no reward without risk.

Even in moments of doubt the key is to keep the vision. I like to keep an inspiration board in my room. Sayings, role models, humorous pictures, fashion that inspires me, art, dishes I want to try, or cupcakes. I love cake.

Dreams should come in a size too big so we can grow into them. Like with anything you start off crawling. There will be falls and stumbles before you can start walking. In no time you will start running at warp speed, but it’s important to not ditch those early efforts. That would be self sabotage. Sometimes we want to be great at everything the very first time we try it, but that’s not how it works. Think of it as training for long distance running. You wouldn’t run the full marathon the first day of training. You’d log the first few miles your first week and go from there. Likewise, train yourself to keep a good attitude and build those muscles. Slow and steady wins the race.